Take a stand


Sometimes in life we are called to take a stand. This month, TSB is taking a stand through our monthly series on various topics. In all honesty, it’s hard to take a stand sometimes. It’s hard to go against the norm, against the cultural expectation, and stand up for what you believe in. But, it’s also so worth it. It’s so worth the dignity and the respect, even though it may not be gained and recognized right away.

One thing that I have taken a stand on recently in my life is not living with my fiancé, Blake, before we are married. After graduating college, Blake got a job in Charlotte and we both decided together that I would try to find a job in Charlotte as well and move too. After a few short months of interviewing, I landed a job and had to move pretty quickly. Blake would follow and move about a month later. So many of my family and friends were so excited for us! We were starting the first adventure in our adult lives and doing something completely on our own. What I noticed was, that almost everyone (aside from both of our parents) assumed that since we were moving “together”, that we would be getting a place together as well. Wronggg!

We live in our own one-bedroom apartments, in the same apartment complex, one building apart from each other. We’re neighbors!

When you live together before you’re married, what do you have to look forward to with that person if/when you DO get married? What changes aside from the fact that you are legally married?

Even though we have taken a stand together, as a couple, to not live together before we are married, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t hard. It’s easy to listen to what the world tells you is normal and the way you should be living, rather than relying on the Bible and your faith for how you should live. Is it hard? YES! Is it more expensive? YES! It’s a lot of things – but I am valuing this time to have our own separate places before we get married. I am valuing my space. I am valuing the respect that Blake has given me, and I absolutely can’t wait to live together in a few short months when we ARE married!

Counting down the days! 🙂

XOX Cailyn

image via: @_abigailgreen, #belovedlife

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