This month’s topics on The Simply Beloved are all centered around the theme of worth. In this article, I am going to be speaking to you ladies about self worth and how we often use our physical appearance to build or diminish our own ideas of self worth.
Self Worth: The sense of one’s own value or worth as a person; self-esteem, self-respect (dictionary.reference.com).
I’m going to be honest- I have struggled with the idea of self-worth in regards to body image and physical appearance for a long time- since 8th grade, actually. Throughout high school and even early college I battled with eating disorders. What began as anorexia in 8th grade turned into bulimia nearly a year later. My desire to be thin and have control of my body resulted in me having very low self-esteem, self-respect and overall self worth.
Even though I have overcome my disorder for nearly 5 years now, I still have to remind myself everyday that I am more than a number, a size, and a figure, and that God made each and every one of us unique.
But then there is this huge distraction and pressure of social media.
I know that in today’s selfie culture, there is an enormous amount of emphasis put on physical appearance through social media platforms, and it is very hard to not get caught up in the craze of it all. I am definitely guilty of posting the occasional selfie on Instagram- but when I really stop and think about it I wonder why we all do it. I know for me a lot of times what it boiled down to was self-affirmation. It feels good to have positive reinforcement and feedback through likes and comments on a picture of yourself. It makes you feel beautiful, even loved sometimes. Temporarily.
To change or challenge this mindset, I ask you to pause and think about what your motives are before you post your next selfie. Who are you trying to impress? Who or what is it glorifying? Are you scaling your self-worth through social media posts? Food for thought. I’m sure that my selfie-posting days are not over, but it’s definitely something that has been on my heart and worth mulling over.
“You can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul.” – Lupita Nyongo
Just remember, beloveds, you were made for so much more. Embrace your body, treat with respect, be healthy, and exude confidence in the things that matter.