Talking about “settling” in relationships can be a hard topic to navigate – whether you are the one in the relationship who is settling or you are a friend or family member of a loved one you witness settling for someone less than you feel he or she deserves.
The way our culture defines dating and happiness now is a lot different than it used to be.
I love hearing my grandparents (and even parents) talk about the importance of morals in dating from when they were younger. Where has it all gone? It seems like everything is backwards in the dating world these days. Actually it doesn’t seem like it – it is! And it causes confusion in what we should and shouldn’t expect and settle for.
So many times I see girls in relationships just for the status of being in a relationship. They settle for less than their heart deserves, allow themselves to be treated poorly, and give themselves away to boys (yes, boys) who don’t pursue them for the right reasons. It’s an easy trap to fall into (been there, done that). “But he says he loves me!” you say. Well, darlings, actions speak louder than words, and the quicker our generation learns that, the better.
Even though it can be hard to believe sometimes, there are good men out there.
Men ready to pursue and engage in meaningful relationships. I thank God every day that he blessed me with the man that I have in my life, and I want to encourage all the other women out there that THERE IS HOPE!
There are men out there who care more about your inner beauty than your outer beauty.
There are men out there who want to talk about God with you, pray with you, and go to church with you.
There are men out there who care about the importance of family.
There are men out there who encourage women to follow their dreams.
There are men out there who will let you cry and vent, and will not get frustrated, but give you support and advice.
There are men out there will bring you soup when you are sick, rub your head
when it hurts.
There are men out there who will make you a better version of yourself.
There are men out there who build women up.
There are men out there who would sacrifice for you and put you before their friends, work, and hobbies.
Know this: God has a plan.
Trust it, be patient, and be the kind of woman that this kind of man would want to pursue. It goes both ways.
Just remember: no one is perfect, so there is always going to be something that you “settle” for. Just make sure it isn’t a red-flag, deal-breaker kind of quality. You can wait forever for the Disney Prince to come sweep you off your feet, but life is a whole lot harder than that, and real, godly men are a lot better than Disney Princes.
Don’t get discouraged, beloveds. Rest in the knowledge that you are already fully and completely loved, and don’t settle for anything less than God’s best for you.
All my love,